Worried that you will make a mistake, look bad, or make a fool of yourself?
If you struggle with not moving forward due to the worry of making a mistake, or looking bad, or making a fool of yourself, you likely have a perfectionist personality. I can tell you that even pastors will say a wrong word/name from the pulpit or mix up their words during a prayer time, but if they stopped the ministry because of that it would be even more foolish.
Even news reporters, leaders, and presidents make gaffes (just search the internet or YouTube and you’ll get a few laughs). Maybe you don’t take action because you are worried and after all no course of action is better than making a mistake, looking bad, or making a fool of yourself. Yet, we can’t live life like that, and you have to be okay with knowing you’re not perfect and allowed to make mistakes.
Now, if you find yourself being worried what others will think, looking like a fool, being considered a failure for doing the wrong thing or making a bad decision, then the problem is a bad mindset that is holding you back from acting quickly and being afraid of making decisions. The way to correct this mindset is to think upon what God thinks of us instead of ourselves or others.
If you need help in knowing what does God say about us, then check out this article:
The more we study the Word of God, the more we discover who we are in Christ. We are transformed into the person God says we are when we make Jesus Christ the pursuit of our lives: “So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord—who is the Spirit—makes us more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image” (2 Corinthians 3:18, NLT; see also Romans 8:29; 12:2; Philippians 1:6; Ephesians 4:15).
Dr. Dweck’s findings are deeply supported by large amounts of psychology research and the conversation discusses how the “fixed mindset” can trap you into behavior patterns like the ones I described above, and how you can get out of them.